Sunday Debrief – March 20th

Wow, it has been a while! A lot has been happening, especially on Sunday afternoons and this has made it difficult to keep up with the briefing. I am also mulling over some other thoughts but don’t want to start discussing them half baked, so you’ll have to wait a little longer for a few more ‘deeper’ posts.

In this next week my big focus is on planning. Planning for The Hub, with the launch now just 21 weeks away. Planning for Sync Youth, which has been growing nicely and is starting to form a really good culture amongst the youth we have coming along.

Amongst all the hussle and bussle I am trying to keep a little ahead so as not to cause any ‘stop’ that doesn’t need to be there. Keeping the dynamics of youth, leaders, parents, effective communication and engaging experiences in line is proving to be a challenge but one that I am enjoying.

God is also talking to me a lot about prayer. Yes, that is right, God is talking to me about prayer, which is kinda what prayer is all about (speaking AND listening!) In particular I have been feeling him say to me that The Hub will not succeed based on whether we do everything ‘right’ or not, but on whether or not we get down on our knees and pray this new church plant into existence. This is hard for someone like me who likes to put shape and structures to things. This isn’t to say we won’t be doing that, but the focus I feel needs to be on prayer, not necessarily getting everything ‘right’.

We’ll see how this week goes :)

Does Youth Ministry just train a new group of consumers?

One of the claims that is often thrown at modern youth ministry is that it just trains a new generation of consumerist Christians, and there is some merit to this claim. Cliff Olsen says, in an article at Youth Specialties.com,

During the cleanup, I was struck by the students’ inbred consumerism. We leaders set up, led games, taught the lesson, and cleaned up when it was over. The youth simply “consumed” the program and went home. Why couldn’t they feel more like it was their ministry? Why couldn’t they lead most, if not all, of the activities? We decided to give it a shot.

This is the model that a lot of youth groups run with, where adult leaders do everything, and in an effort to be up front and honest about it, the youth group I run currently functions a fair bit in this way. HOWEVER, as Olsen asks, why couldn’t other students lead a lot of this?

One of the major changes that we have made at Sync Youth this year is we have ‘graduated’ our 16 and 17 year old’s into a new Young Adult group. As part of this I have offered our new young adults the opportunity to be Youth Leader Apprentices. The aim of this position is to start to HEAD in the direction where we get more of our younger youth/young adults developing in their leadership and helping take charge of their own youth program. Though for now we still require quite a bit of adult help, my goal is to get to the place where our Adult Leaders can do more of the relationship building and allow some of our older teenagers the opportunity to help set up and lead the games and activities.

Why?
You might be asking why is it important to get our students in their final years of high school involved in leadership? Don’t they have enough to do already? Isn’t there a problem because not all students are equipped or gifted with ‘leadership’. Well, yes and no.

I definitely believe there is a ‘gift of leadership’ that not everyone possesses, but I am starting to come to the belief that all of our kids can, if they want, help grow our younger youth in some way. They won’t necessarily be ‘leaders’ in the strictest sense of the term, but I am finding that some kids who otherwise wouldn’t be seen as leaders, are really great at ‘serving’…is this not one of the main roles of leadership? They may not all be the up the front, loud, proud leaders…but some of the better student leaders I have seen have quietly gone about cleaning up, making sure all the new kids feel welcome, encouraging the other student leaders. These are leadership qualities often missed when we look for up and coming leaders.

I had a really good discussion today with a friend on many of the topics I am mulling over for my book. We were particularly talking about rights of passage and effectively transitioning teens from youth group to adult church. One of the biggest problems I think we have had is in the ability to help our teenagers see themselves in 5-10 years time as they will be. NOT so much what they’ll be doing, will they be a Doctor etc…but more who they will BE as people. Student leadership, in many ways, is about helping equip and empower our teenagers in their giftings NOW, so that they can start to operate in them and see a glimpse of what they could be like in 5 years time. Not that they will see themselves as youth leaders, though they might become that, but that they can see they can be loving or they can be caring, or they can serve, or they can insert character trait here. A lot of what we have NOT done, from my observations, is help our teenagers to start operating in their adult ways earlier.

I believe this is an important step in moving INTO adult hood, as opposed to following the Peter Pan idea and never growing up. As much as there is a lot of talk about ‘our kids are being turned into adults too fast’ I almost wonder if that is only a half truth? Yes, we have tweens now (pre-pubescent teens, so 8-12ish) acting ‘like adults’ or dressing ‘like adults’ but equally, we have 20+ adolescents who have never grown up. Perhaps we need to help them around the ages of 16-17 start to OPERATE in some ways like their adult selves, so they can actually start to grasp what adulthood means for them. I believe this would help adulthood be less of a scary thing, which it is to many teens, and more a natural progression in life.

The more I think about all of this, the more I see how intricately everything is linked. From channeling the passion of teenagers for good, to transitioning them from teenagerhood to adult church and adult life, to creating and continuing rights of passage for our western cultured teens. And in all of this I believe the Church can play a pivotal role in helping to positively influence youth culture. To be known for how it is changing the lives of teenagers for the BETTER rather than what it is stopping teenagers from doing.

And in all of this I believe equipping our older teenagers in leadership, or possibly more truthfully just in their giftings, should play a large role in the future of our youth ministries.

The Sunday Briefing – Time Management

What is one clear sign that my last week was relatively hectic? The fact I have not updated this blog since this time last Sunday! Just as I expected, last week proved to be rather difficult in terms of fitting everything in. I did manage to get everything done AND I would say the week went very well, but I was exhausted come Saturday.

One of the big things that my bible college education taught me was self preservation. They were very big on not just filling my head with knowledge but building me as a person, helping to teach me good characteristics and also teach me good self care. I know, from this training, that last week is ok as a once off every now and then…but it cannot become my regular rhythm, as I discussed last week.

One of the best self care principles that I have in place is that I regularly meet up with a mentor. This is something I did in the last week and, as usual, has proven to be very beneficial. Though a lot of our meeting was spent catching up as we have not met over the summer, the last 15 minutes basically made the meeting the most worthwhile thing I did all week because in that 15 minutes we discussed time management and in particular we discussed a system that my mentor uses to help him keep on top of all the ‘tasks’ that are in his life AND, more importantly, make sure he is using his time doing the things that are most important, that he is best equipped to do. ‘To do lists’ can grow very easily and without some sort of structure in place you can quickly find your time disappearing, and you can also find yourself spending a lot of time on tasks that are probably not as important as others.

One of the main systems my mentor uses is a website called ‘Remember The Milk’. I’ve provided a screen shot of my set up to the right. It won’t mean much to people who haven’t used the system, but it is definitely helping me keep on top of things.

One of the key things I have decided to do is, as much as possible, make my Sunday Afternoons a ‘organise my week’ time. This will ebb and flow because I know there will be times I have things on during Sunday afternoons, but in general it will be a good time to do this. As I have church Sunday morning and then The Hub on Sunday nights, I find it works best to consider Sunday a ‘work day’ because I don’t tend to get to ‘rest’ in the afternoon, which means I have often wasted that time. This way I can use my Sunday afternoons productively and get myself set up to use my week times as efficiently and effectively as possible.

Now, a quick aside to end this entry. To some people, the words ‘efficient’ and ‘effective’ cause red flags to go up all over the place. Isn’t ministry about relationship? Isn’t ministry about building the Kingdom of God? Yes, absolutely! However I am someone who BEST is able to do these things from within a structure. I like to put structures in place BECAUSE it is very easy to move away from a structure, where required (well, personal structures that I have set up) but I have found it doesn’t tend to work the other way, adding structure ‘on the fly’ doesn’t work for me. I feel most stressed and most out of my depth when I KNOW I have a lot on, or at least ‘feel’ like I do. If I put a structure like I have suggested in place, I tend to find the stress levels decrease and I actually find MORE time to be relational and more time to sow into building the Kingdom of God. It is just how I work best, and I want to give my best to God!

So onto another week.

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Does Youth Ministry just train a new group of consumers?

One of the claims that is often thrown at modern youth ministry is that it just trains a new generation of consumerist Christians, and there is some merit to this claim. Cliff Olsen says, in an article at Youth Specialties.com, During the cleanup, I [...] Read more »